REAL Couples – REAL Issues – REAL solutions.
This blog is a part of a series inspired by real conversations between real couples. The words have been inspired by using one of the guided conversations from www.OnlineMarriagePreparation.com.
STEP ONE: HOW SHALL WE DEFINE OUR ISSUE?
We were not able to communicate as well as we should have and it resulted in a fight!
STEP TWO: WHY IS THIS IMPORTANT TO US?
I believe it is important for us to communicate even when we are angry in order to resolve conflicts in the future. Communication is key to having a healthy marriage and understanding each other. Because we are about to get married, I really want us to be able to communicate well in marriage.
STEP THREE: WHAT WOULD A BETTER FUTURE LOOK LIKE FOR US?
We will be able to overcome our differences in our marriage if we are better at resolving issues. In the future I hope that I will be a better communicator, especially when we’re having a conflict. We both need to be better at opening up and talking to each other, especially when we’re mad. We not only need to hold our tongues and not say things we don’t really mean, but we also need to be more forgiving. We definitely need to discuss the reasons for our anger and talk about how we can avoid similar fights in the future.
STEP FOUR: WHAT ARE OUR BEST IDEAS?
Idea One: We can get ice cream together after a fight and discuss why we each of us were mad
Idea Two: We can take some time to cool off when fighting so the fight doesn’t escalate.
STEP FIVE: WHAT WE WILL ACTUALLY DO?
We will both be willing to give each other space when either of us is upset or mad. And we will both try our best to communicate how we are feeling in a calm way.
STEP SIX: HOW WILL WE KNOW THAT WE’RE MAKING PROGRESS?
When we are able to not fight over not communicating well and can better understand each other.