You show true love when you take the time to fully understand what your partner wants to tell you. Your main job in resolving the conflict is not to get your point across. Rather, it’s to be an expert on what your partner thinks and…
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Love requires trust, and trust requires honesty. I notice with many of the couples that I work with that one (or both) of them holds back what they are really thinking or feeling. They don’t want to hurt the other’s feelings or endanger their relationship,…
Express the importance of your relationship by turning off distractions like the TV, the computer, even the phone. It’s difficult to make eye contact when you’re distracted by something else. What your partner has to say is far more important than anything else at the…
Negotiation and compromise are essential skills. Always be looking for solutions (re-solutions) that will make life better for BOTH of you, and never say or imply, “It’s my way or the highway!” It’s amazing how creative you can both be if you are self-aware and…
One of the important skills of good communication, and especially, good conflict resolution is the ability to ask good questions that invite greater understanding. And by the way, when you ask a good question, really listen to the response and take it into your reservoir…
Before the argument or discussion becomes too heated (and you can usually feel the emotional temperature and sometimes your voice rising), take time to cool off. Say something like, “This isn’t a good time for me. I need to give it some more thought. Let’s…
Discuss issues as they come up. The old adage tells us not to let the sun set on our anger. What that means is that we need to clean up our messes as soon as possible. But it’s so important to know that that may…
Be self-aware. That is, know what’s going on inside you. What is it you need? Feel? Want? You may need to take some time to become self-aware. Physical activity helps with this. Writing can help some. Prayer or at least some deep breaths can help…
Welcome to this series of posts. During the online marriage preparation eCourses couples are introduced to 14 “Rules for Resolving Conflicts.” Subsequent posts will highlight each one. When you have an important decision affecting both of you, how do you decide together? If there is…
Wow, Rev. Dr. Frank Nelson! Your session is like a superior coaching session to perform at maximum level in our relationship and marriage!! We were a little intimidated when we started this adventure. Would we find out we’re not as compatible as we think we…
