Anger

By January 16, 2019 August 31st, 2020 Miscellaneous

REAL Couples – REAL Issues – REAL solutions.

This is the first in a series of blogs inspired by real conversations. The words have been written by real couples as they prepare for marriage using the guided conversations from www.OnlineMarriagePreparation.com.

OUR ISSUE DEFINED

We are both concerned about the way we handle our anger.

WHY IS THIS IMPORTANT TO US?

Anger is an emotion that’s hard to control and can take over and hurt. We show our anger in different ways, sometimes through yelling and sometimes through tears or sadness. Sometimes we can suppress our anger and then it explodes unexpectedly. Our feelings include: sadness, willingness, feeling ignored, powerless, frustrated, and negative.

WHAT WOULD A BETTER FUTURE LOOK LIKE FOR US?

When this issue is resolved we will control our feelings better and handle things differently by talking and compromising. We will try not to be controlling or bossy. I will stop nagging you. When we get angry we will take a breath, and not walk away without say, “Let’s take a break and then come back to talk about this.” We’ll try not to yell and be more respectful of each other. We’ll both talk more respectfully before letting it get out of control, and sometimes we will take the time to write down some of our thoughts and feelings and then talk about them. We will remember our love for each other and talk about the issue in a way that shows the love and respect we have for each other.

WE’LL KNOW WE ARE MAKING PROGRESS WHEN…

Our arguments don’t turn into yelling and we’ll feel freer to bring things up because we trust each other that we can talk it through.

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